The page is closing on another summer in Arizona. That allowed us to sit out on the patio this week as the weather is turning nice when the sun retreats for the day. The ride into work Friday morning required a heavy sweatshirt to block the wind and cold. Now, I use the term cold in a relative state because most don’t consider 69 – 70 as cold, but with the temperatures we have had over the past four months it seems cold to me.
So where have I been since completing my summer ride? Well, mostly lost. The trials and tribulations of life reared their ugly head in AzHD land and the past two months just gotten lost in the shuffle.
The night I got home from the summer ride I got the call that my daughter’s husband announced he wanted out. To say that this was a shock would be the understatement of the decade. Nobody saw this coming from his family to their friends to our family and most of all to my daughter. So, I pulled up my daddy panties and went to work helping and giving all of my support to my daughter. Her strength in this has been nothing short of amazing and she will be healthy and happy in the end because that is her personality.
Linda’s dad has been suffering the dastardly effects of Alzheimer’s. He passed away two weeks ago and the family is trying to cope with the loss. It is never easy even when you know it is coming.
Collectively this adds up to the summer of loss for me. The events with my daughter, especially, gave me pause. I think it opened old wounds in me that I had tried to bury. I added a comment on a blog post by Dave about socks to prevent cold feet prior to him and BB getting married, but I was the one getting cold feet.
Having been divorced and single for twelve years I have become quite selfish in many respects. Then Linda came along and I asked her to marry me. Damn, did that set the world in motion! Well, I have done more thinking in the past two months than I wanted to do. More soul searching than I thought possible. More coulda, shoulda, woulda’s than the law allows.
It is with the deepest, heartfelt regret that I announce the decision I…..no WE have come to.
We are going to……….
be looking for a toy hauler and start trailering Petunia.
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I would kick you if you were closer. I was almost in tears!
I am sorry though for your daughter, that isn't ever an easy thing to deal with, even more difficult I'm sure, when you don't see it coming. Good thing she has the daddy she has.
Also so sorry for you all with the loss of Linda's dad.
I hope this next year brings nothing but good for all of you.
In spite of all the shitty news in this post, the end had me laughing!
I'm with BB, I am closer and should go kick you! LOL!
I think in the end your daughter will be a stronger person for all the crap she's going through. I've been there. I'm thinking of her.
And, as far as Linda's loss goes, I've been there too and it's never easy losing a parent. I've lost both and we knew Dad was dying...that was the hardest part. I'm so sorry for her loss.
I think you will make a great trailer queen Paul! LMFAO!
BB and Ann - he made me read this BEFORE my coffee this morning. You will have to take a number and stand in line as far as kicking his ass goes. lol Thanks to my brother for convincing him we are too old to sleep on the ground anymore and a good night sleep will make the next day's ride even better. Love you guys
Why were you hoarding the cooler weather bro!
I was freakin' out until I saw the huge gap in the paragraph...then I just started laughing before I got to the last sentance.
You know what? Everything that happens to us and our loved ones is simply training for the next thing to come. Some of the worst things that could have happened to me have turned out for the best later on.
Getting past the now is the hard part. Sorry to hear about the daughter. As a father I can relate to the feelings. I hope I can deal with it as well as you appear to be dealing with it.
Thanks bro for keeping me inbetween a laugh and a tear. Isn't that what life is all about
Trailer Queens!! LOL!! Well, you know your not going to hear any bashing out of us. We haven't tent camped in ages... cause we aged! :) Hubby always said... "I graduated from that shit long ago, I want comfort!" Congratulations.
As far as your heartache, I understand what your going through. I'm not a daddy, but a sister who watched infidelity ruin two of my brother's marriages (both in the last 8 months!). The ironic thing about this is... both the WIVES were the cheaters! How sad! I have some pretty great brothers too. I really don't understand.
"What doesn't break us... makes us stronger."
Hang in there Dude... your daughter has a great dad and with your support and love, she will come through.
Can't wait to see pics of the new rig! Road Trip!
Sorry to hear your news. I mean all 3 bits of news - your daughter, Linda's Dad and the trailer..... I am sure your daughter, Linda and Petunia all benefit from you being there for them.
Ya, but you still got what it takes to ride; the bike and the shit-storm.
Jesus effin Christ!!! I almost had a freakin heart attack right here, right now! Don't you EVER do that again my new step-pop or I will have to come over and kick your a**!!!!! But then again, "the shot heard round the world" wouldn't have been silent considering my mom would've called me....right??? You would've let her use the phone right?? heehee :-)
Oh, Dude! My heart goes out to you in so many ways.
John
Wow; Sounds like a lot has been happening, and fast. At least it sounds like you and your family are dealing with the changes life is throwing your way.
I wish you all the best. Embrace change. It's one of the only things in life that is guaranteed to always happen.
Very sorry about your daughter's divorce and the loss of Linda's father. I hope that getting out there on the road will bring much needed stress relief to you!!
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. However, you have a gain here... you have the best of both worlds with a toy hauler. You can be free in all sorts of weather and COMFORTABLE. I, also, don't really camp out. Haven't done it years... just don't find a need for it since there are so many motels on the road with an actual shower and toilet. So with all that has hit you, you will have the future enjoyment of knowing you can ride and drive and snooze all in one spot...comfy style. I say good for you... and don't freak me out anymore! *smile*
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